By Bonnie Olson for YourTango

"You must choose, but choose wisely. For as the true Grail will bring you life, the false Grail will take it from you." This ominous quote about choices is from the movie "Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade".

Think about the most important choices you make in life. Making the best decisions starts with knowing yourself and being honest about what you deeply want. Sure, while making decisions, other people are considered, but it begins and ends with you.

• Are you at a place of balance in your life?
If you are at a place in your life where you are balanced in your work, mind, body and spirit, you are more likely to enter into a healthy relationship with a healthy person.
• Finally, how do you feel in this relationship?
If you feel comfortable, loved and cherished, equal and calm in this relationship, like you are finally home, then congratulations! Make that choice. It sounds like a keeper. Making life choices isn't so hard when you remain TAO -- Transparent, Authentic and Open. Marriage and life partnership are not objects to win, but instead are earned with trust and love. The reward for being TAO is a life with a loving, honest companion and best friend.

You believe you are in love and decide that you will choose this person as your life partner or spouse. This decision will impact your life for a very long time and hopefully for the rest of your life in the best ways possible. Being completely honest with yourself about who you are and who this person is and what each of you are coming into the relationship with can help you to make the best possible decision. You choose to be with someone because of the way they make you feel, right? Or is the choice made because you can imagine what life with this person, at its best, will look? Is it wishful thinking, or is your image based on evidence and things you know to be true? These are important questions to think about before going through with commitment.

As I mentioned, knowing yourself -- your dreams, your strengths and weaknesses -- is the first step to making the right choice. Here are some questions to ask yourself:

Once you're able to answer these questions honestly, you will then be able to determine if you are ready to choose your life partner. Ready, set, answer!