Gay marriage doesn’t run along the same lines as traditional weddings. Rightfully so they should not as the rules to a gay wedding are completely different from that of heterosexual couples. With traditional weddings, typically the groom asks the bride for her hand in marriage. The bride’s parents tend to be the ones to pick up most of the wedding bill and the bride has more control of cake and decor. But slam on your breaks!!! This isn’t a traditional marriage. We are talking about gay marriage and the typical things just mentioned can be rather confusing for the same-sex. Which groom is suppose to ask the other to be married? Which bride wears the wedding gown? Whose surname is taken? What drama will the couple get from those who don’t support gay marriage? All these questions are critical when planning a gay wedding and are what couples face today. The wedding industry has been booming with gay weddings. But with the increase in gay marriage there comes a lot of complicated questions that Wedding Planners are helping gay couples answer. Following the Supreme Court’s June decision to strike a key part of DOMA, states such as DC are making millions in economic benefits due to gay marriage. Here are some of the findings from The Knot and The Advocate‘s First-Ever Same-Sex Wedding Survey. These findings show that gay marriage has broken tradition from their heterosexual counterparts.

 

Now that you have seen the statistics on gay marriage, here are some of the answers to the most pressing questions same-sex couples have. 1. Who should walk down the aisle and who should be waiting on the alter? It’s completely up to you. In fact both parties can walk the aisle together or in certain venues down their own aisle. 2. Who wears the wedding gown or the tuxedo? Another non-traditional question that is left up to you. For men, it’s normal that both want to wear a tuxedo. What we do encourage is that you find ways to look different from each other. You both don’t have to wear the same tie. One could wear a bow tie, different colors, a different cut suit. For brides we have seen both wear wedding gowns and we have seen one wear a tuxedo from brands such as Saint Harridan. 3. How can you find gay friendly venues to get married at? Well thankfully you don’t have to hunt for venues as more businesses are catering to same-sex couples now than ever. 4. How will your guests feel if they are in a mixed crowed of gay and straight? Guests clearly know this is a gay wedding. They support you, so the energy in the room is going to be one of the most powerful you have experienced. So seeing you finally be able to pronounce your love legally is something they want to share with you. 5. How can you have ceremonial tradition during your ceremony like a bride and groom? Yes we just used that word. Use family traditions that you love and feel will work well at your ceremony. 6. Who should be escorted down the aisle? Both brides can be escorted by their fathers individually if you choose. Men can very well be escorted down the aisle by their mother, father, or anyone who has that important role in their lives. 7. What surname should the couple have? This can run many ways. In fact the groom or bride who asks the other to marriage “should” be the surname to take. However, that’s a decision we recommend you discuss in detail. There are a number of altruistic reasons to take one name over the other so make a smart decision.  No matter how your wedding is planned, keep your feelings in tact and do what you feel is right for you and your bride or groom. Lastly, be sure to research rules for the area that you get married. We don’t want any surprises. 

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